It’s a problem. And maybe it’s a problem for you. Struggling with sexual stuff is hard. This topic cuts so close to the core of who we are, which is the way God made us. But the struggles are painful, and often heaped with shame and guilt.
What’s going on in your mind right now? Yes, right this very minute. What has your attention? Are you having a good day, or a bad day? If someone asked you, “A penny for your thoughts?”, what would you tell them? Do you have a stock-pile of good things to think about?
No human being escapes all suffering. While perhaps unkind, it would have been true for me to say over the baby I delivered today, “Welcome to a lifetime of suffering, little girl.” And Jesus promised that “in this world you will have trouble.” (John 16:33) But wouldn’t it be a good idea to escape unnecessary suffering?
What does the self-talk in your head sound like? What do you tell yourself? Perhaps like so many people you keep second-guessing yourself, wondering whether you’ve got what it takes. The self-defeating messages keep screaming and you feel paralyzed. Is there an antidote to self-doubt?
Knowing about God’s design for intimacy in marriage is great. But that goal can seem so impossible to approach. What about if you’re not there? (And who is?) How can you pursue intimacy with your spouse and experience more of the intimacy God designed you to have?