You are a theologian whether you realize it or not. Theology is nothing more than what you believe about God. And the kind of God you serve makes a tremendous difference in just about everything in your life.
Pain is perhaps the loneliest thing in the world. That goes for emotional pain, physical pain, spiritual pain. It becomes a vicious cycle; you feel alone and it hurts. And that pain makes you isolate even more. It’s as if you physically and/or emotionally curl up into a ball, wrap your tail around your face, and close yourself off to the outside world.
Some marriages are just plain bad. Words like sharp knives pierce tender hearts. Affection and sex are demanded, withheld, or used as bait to control and demean. God-talk is mixed with manipulation and shame. Pleas for change go unheeded. Sex and intimacy are sought outside of the marriage covenant. And the list goes on.
God doesn’t simply rain down healing or transformation from “on high.” Instead, He came to be with us. And in whatever troubles you face, whether traumas from the past or troubles in the present, that means you can take Jesus there with you.
Your picture of God makes a difference. In your heart of hearts, what do you believe about Him? Not what others tell you, or what you think you’re supposed to believe. When you’re faced with “stuff,” do you believe He’s truly on your side? In the end, do you experience God as for you or against you?