How is intimacy going for you? It is good, healthy, nourishing? Or have your attempts at intimacy resulted in only frustration, darkness, and pain? Do you understand what it takes to experience intimacy? Do you know why God invented sex?
You’ve heard people talk about it. Perhaps it sounds a little weird, and at the same time something in your heart wonders if you’re missing something. Or perhaps you’ve felt that level of closeness with God for brief moments in the past, but feel a little disappointed that you don’t experience it more. It would help to understand what intimacy with God means.
Keeping a positive outlook on life brings many benefits – both to your own experience and to your marriage. But choosing good things to think about can seem especially difficult when your spouse is negative.
What’s going on in your mind right now? Yes, right this very minute. What has your attention? Are you having a good day, or a bad day? If someone asked you, “A penny for your thoughts?”, what would you tell them? Do you have a stock-pile of good things to think about?
If your heart whispers – or screams – “I hate sex”, you’re not alone. That might sound as strange as “I hate food.” (That can happen, but that’s another story.) There are plenty of reasons you might hate sex. And understanding why will make a difference.