The Key to Filling Your Empty Soul

Learning to Feed Yourself

Quiet Bench to fill an Empty SoulWhat do you do when you feel empty inside? Do you retreat into a hole, waiting for someone to pull you out? Do you deteriorate into a TV junkie/couch potato/Facebook addict? Do you lash out at anyone and everyone who dares to enter your space, including the dog? Do you keep pressing forward, struggling with what feels like running through waist-deep water?

Busy-ness, parenting pressures, financial stress, illness, difficult people, or any of the other normal pressures of life can poke holes in your internal bucket and leave you with an empty soul. And if your internal level of reserve is already low, a larger-than-normal leak in your soul can quickly drain any remaining resilience you have. Your creativity evaporates, you don’t handle even minor stresses well, and you struggle to see anything positive in the world.

I’ve learned the warning signs that indicate I’m running on empty. I let small things really upset me, sometimes to the point of tears. I’m always embarrassed when I get to that point, but I’ve learned to see it as a warning sign that I need to get intentional about filling up.

When your stomach is empty you find something to eat. Sometimes it’s a quick snack – the healthier the better. Sometimes it’s a gourmet meal. Your body does best when you regularly eat a variety of good quality food.

But what you don’t do when you’re hungry is sit down and wait for someone else to feed you.

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What Does Women’s Health Have To Do With Your Faith?

Making choices consistent with your faith

Satisfied WomanShe and I were waiting together in the green room at the church, preparing to make our respective presentations to an excited group of women. The moment she heard I was an OB-Gyn physician she asked, “Can I talk to you about something?” Women’s health and faith were not at peace with each other in her mind.

My new friend and her husband were wrestling with some decisions about their marriage and family that had some significant ethical implications. They knew most of the medical information they needed to know. They knew what they could do.

But they weren’t satisfied with knowing what they could do. They were dedicated followers of Jesus, and wanted their decisions to honor God in every way. They were more interested in what they should do. They had heard what seemed to be conflicting perspectives from friends and other Christians, and were struggling to know how to proceed.

Women’s health and faith have sometimes seemed at odds with each other. But that’s really an illusion.

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If you don’t have a job that offers health insurance

I’m so honored to be guest posting with my friend Dan Miller at 48 Days this week. Dan is passionate about helping you find or create work you love, and that is meaningful, purposeful, and profitable.


Perhaps you work for a small business that doesn’t offer traditional benefits such as health insurance. Perhaps you’re an independent contractor or entrepreneur and are concerned about how to manage healthcare costs for you and your family. Or perhaps the health insurance your job provides doesn’t fit with your values or needs.

There are many things you can do to proactively take charge of your healthcare just as you should your work-life, health, and other aspects of your life. You don’t have to let outside circumstances dictate how you will be spending your days. You can do the same with your healthcare. You don’t have to let government regulations, health insurance companies, or your boss (if you have one) determine how you and your family will get health care when you need it.

Of course looking at your options before you are in a health crisis provides the best possibilities. Here are some things to consider.

Want to see my five specific recommendations, including helpful links and resources?

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And I also talk a lot more about these options in my new book Dr Carol’s Guide to Women’s Health. Check it out today!

Wifey Wednesday: Flip that Mental Switch!

The key to great sex is to flip that mental switch!

I’m so excited to be guest posting over at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum today! Thank You!!!! to Sheila Wray Gregoire for the privilege. I invite you to check out all the great resources Sheila has to offer.

Mental SwitchYou may have experienced the vicious cycle yourself. Something isn’t going well between you and your husband. Perhaps he was inconsiderate and said something negative about you in front of your friends. Perhaps you were extra tired or truly had a headache, and had to refuse his sexual advances. The temperature between you dropped from pleasantly warm to tepid.

Neither of you felt much like “making up.” A few days later something else happened, and the temperature dropped again. Now you’re starting to feel a real chill. You’re frustrated at his lack of understanding, and he certainly isn’t doing anything to make you feel warmer towards him. And if he were asked, he would say that you’re going out of your way to be distant, unavailable, and downright “unwifely!”

God wants us to “love, honor, and cherish” each other. And there’s not much loving, honoring, or cherishing going on.

In my role as an OB-Gyn physician, and in my ministry activities, I hear from couples like this all too often. What starts out as a temporary speedbump can easily develop into a wall between you.

It’s been two months since he made any effort at intimacy.” “She hasn’t let me make love to her for almost a year.”

And the weeks, months, or even years continue until you’re more like roommates instead of husband and wife. I can feel the hurt, the frustration, and the loneliness in these couples.

Is that you?

As a wife you have plenty of excuses you could use to keep your husband at arm’s length and not “have to” engage in sex.    . . .

Want to read the rest of the post, and unlock the key to flipping that mental switch?

Join me over at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum today. I’ll see you there!

Dr Carol’s Guide to Women’s Health is Here!

Take Charge of Your Physical and Emotional Wellbeing

Dr Carol's Guide to Women's HealthIt’s Here!

The big day has arrived. At least it’s big for me.

Dr Carol’s Guide to Women’s Health is released for sale today. And I hope every one of you goes on right now and buys one!

OK, I know you’re not very likely to click and buy just because I asked you to do so in one sentence. So let me tell you a little about this book baby of mine.

By the way, although I’ve never physically given birth to a baby, I feel as though I’ve experienced labor and delivery through the many months this book baby has been in development!

Dr Carol’s Guide to Women’s Health will give you what you need to take charge of your physical and emotional wellbeing.

Over the past two weeks I’ve been talking with you about taking charge of the parts of your life that you need to. It’s the only way you’ll find the level of wellbeing you were made for. It’s the way God created you to be. And your decision to take charge is the most important factor in overcoming the resistance you’ll face as you begin moving forward.

In this guide, I bring together medical science, my practical experience of over 25 years of medical practice, and a faith perspective in addressing the whole spectrum of health issues women just like you face throughout the various stages of your lives.

But this book isn’t just about the kinds of women’s health that would be addressed at a women’s clinic or your OB-Gyn physician’s office. It’s a lot more than that. Because you see,

A healthy woman is so much more than her reproductive organs!

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